How Can You Become The Man You Really Are?
Shadow work allows you to explore your shadow, find your emotional wounds and heal them.
Are you looking for better relationships, more harmony, less stress, greater clarity, and more personal power?
Want a safe place to do more work on yourself?
Frustrated by the lack of opportunity to dive deep, to really explore and then heal your wounds in a supportive circle of conscious men?
Tired of the same old, same old stuff coming up again and again? Well, we have a solution for you…
A Shadow Work Group.
What exactly is a Shadow Work Group, and what happens there?
It’s a group workshop for men where you can explore your Shadows, rebalance your archetypes, and find emotional healing. You can think of this as an emotional process workshop where individual pieces of Shadow work are longer, deeper, more extensive and, most important, transformative.
This allows for an exploration of your deeper emotional issues and wounds, with the aim of bringing them into the light and healing them.
We work with the Jungian concept of Shadow. Your Shadow is made up of the parts of yourself that are hidden, repressed and denied, seeking to bring them into consciousness so that they no longer exert influence and control over your behaviour.
We – that’s Rod Boothroyd, Ed Rooke, and Diarmaid Fitzpatrick – are holding these events for men, creating safe spaces where you can experience profound male support, explore your wounds, change your internal “tapes”, reduce the power of your Shadow, and find new ways of being in the world. This all about working on your shadow to integrate it into your whole being.
These are workshops which can cement the development you started in other circles including The ManKind Project Adventure Weekend, personal therapy, counselling or spiritual practices. In fact, these are weekends that will deepen your experience in other healing circles.
These are weekends that can produce profound changes in your life. These are weekends that make a difference.
In a small group of men we will start by building a “container” where the magic can happen. We will explore the different archetypes of King, Warrior, Magician and Lover, and discover how they play out in your life. We will sit in circles and check in with each other.
And above all, you will have the chance to do a piece of personal shadow work lasting up to an hour and a half. You’ll get the support of other men. You’ll be held as you engage your Warrior, your Magician, your Lover, with all of their deep and dark shadows, and you’ll be blessed as you feel your King within you.
We use a variety of approaches to this work, but our theoretical foundations are a Jungian approach to exploring the shadow, work using voice dialogue, work using embodied energies, and Transactional Analysis, combined with integrative psychotherapy.
Now, what’s stopping you? Know your fear, feel your power, and take a risk. You will live to celebrate it!
We invite payment on a sliding scale according to circumstances and ability to pay. Please see details of each event for pricing. Full payment is required before the weekend.
Contact Rod Boothroyd on email@example.com if you want a place or have any questions. But do it now. The number of places for men on these weekends is limited to 7.
We also welcome men supporting men to join the circle as well. You won’t have a dedicated opportunity to do a piece of work, but you can support other men working, experience the joy of a male circle, and take part in other men’s work. There is no charge for this opportunity.
Contact Rod now to reserve a place: firstname.lastname@example.org
Comments from men on previous shadow workshops (also known as Emotional Process Workshops):
The weekend was profound. It was cathartic, evoking so many feelings – grief, sadness, joy, fear and more. I feel it is a beginning to something that I should have embraced many years ago. It’s a process which all men (and women) should seek out, and I’ve recommended your workshop to colleagues, friends and family. You’ve provided me with tools to decode and reset many patterns that are deep-rooted, ingrained even. These are overbearing traits that I’ve worked to change myself, but I now realise that we can’t do everything on our own – we should embrace help. I did feel much lighter in myself by the end, and empowered. Although I do need to be mindful of viewing the workshop as merely a beginning: I see the need to develop an ongoing practice in order to recognise and recode, to make me a stronger, more aware and, ultimately, a happier, more grounded man, father, lover, leader, action-taker, thinker and learner. – Andrew A., Lewes
The workshop was transformative and very well held. I really appreciated the
My journey to the men’s emotional process workshop started on the amazon website. I was buying a friend a book (Iron John by Robert Bly) and as I was completing my purchase a suggestion of other books I might be interested in included Warrior Magician Lover King: A guide to the male archetypes updated for the 21st century. I purchased it, read it and was amazed how the book spoke to me and gave answers to many of the challenges I’ve been going through as a man trying to navigate life in a healthy and purposeful way. As I finished reading the book I inquired about Rod and saw that he organised workshops for men based on working with the shadow. I decided to enrol straightaway. Few weeks later I was in this small group of men, expecting to have some sort of a lecture with maybe some testimonials but what happened was so unexpected, deep and life changing in a way that it exceeded all expectations that I had for the workshop. Being with other wounded men who were aware of it, honest about it and wanting to do something to heal was very safe and installed an instant bond between us. This allowed us to be open to work into our emotional scars more specifically into getting rid of the shadow bag which we have been carrying for far too long. The experience of the weekend was so rich that I can’t go into specifics but what I will say is that at a personal level what I got out of it is the following; I have always wondered how it was to be a man? What do you feel? When do you know you are one? Outwardly, physically I couldn’t be more masculine, have a decent life, am a fully functioning member of society, but deep down I was a wounded boy trying to make his way in this world. With the support of Rod and Diarmaid, as well as my brothers in this journey, for the first time in my life I have been walking as the adult man I am and not as the wounded boy I once was. It’s been both exciting and daunting, it’s only the start of the journey, but it is a journey I am willing to take as I can’t imagine what would be worse than an unfulfilled life. I would definitely recommend the workshop to men who like me want to find the essence, the core, the uniqueness of who they truly are. I am very grateful to my fellow companions as well as Diarmaid and Rod for their help, support and love (and yes I insist on the word love). Something truly unique happens when men gather together and support each other. The way Diarmaid and Rod set the whole workshop, their experience, passion and love for helping men to heal and embrace their inner king is truly remarkable. I will carry this experience with me for the rest my life. – Johnny T 45 years old, London.
I’m Phil, from London, a normal working class bloke. I went on Rod’s weekend in Hammersmith and was cleansed of my shame and guilt learned as a child for not being good enough. I wish I’d gone through this process many years ago, so that I could have shared my whole being with others and made there lives a happier place. May your power always be with you. – Phil, London.
Rod, Diarmaid and Ed are a great and safe team when you put yourself in their hands. The workshop provided theoretical and practical insights into what the shadow is and how it affects us as men. They are professional, committed, sensitive, understanding and extremely knowledgeable. I learnt a great deal about myself because I was able to go deep by being “held” in such a safe place, and I’ve been putting it to good use since. – Christian Banfield
I spent the last weekend on the Shadow workshop with Rod, Diarmaid and Ed. I learnt so much. I learnt so much about who I am, why I am and how I am. I dug deep into patterns of stuck behaviour, not just stuck within me but those inherited from my ancestors. I understand those behaviours now and I know they don’t serve me. They are now not my behaviours. I was fortunate to spend the weekend amongst men with pure hearts and an intention to better what they did and how they live. It is truly a gift to find such brotherhood. The most amazing things happened to me and others not just because we were together with a shared intention but because the weekend was facilitated in an astonishing way by Rod, Diarmaid and Ed. I have never seen such natural, empathetic and intuitive facilitation. I went with a very clear need. This was met but in a way that I could not have foreseen. I was transported to places I had long forgotten to heal wounds that were ever-present. This was done with amazing skill, kindness and insight. The facilitators truly cared about me. I could feel it. I have been involved in a number of facilitated sessions like this and I have seen work left half-done. This was different. These men really know how to get to the heart of a problem, how to heal and know how to close. These men are simply brilliant at what they do. I leave lighter, brighter and mightier. This will touch every aspect of my life. I wanted to change and they have changed me through their work. I can’t thank them enough. – Mark Shayler
This workshop allows you to go deep within and gain a better understanding of how the archetypes are working within your life now, how they developed and evolved from childhood. It will allow you to come to terms or peace with some of the internal challenges you’ve self-developed, which may have served you well in the past but are more of a hindrance now. Gain insight into how to balance your kingdom and discover your true-self. This will allow you to commence the next level of your personal journey. This workshop cannot be recommended enough, with the careful & experienced leadership of Rod, Ed and Dermot – each one bringing valuable skillsets and wisdom to allow you to gain the maximum benefit from the weekend. Take the step, get on the workshop, immerse yourself into the weekend and you will find the results are truly remarkable. I cannot recommend this highly enough! This workshop helped me to realise some of the beauty within and around me. There is something special and magical that happens at this workshop and the circle created. Trust the process and allow yourself to realise the true potential of the kingdom you have within. – Jat Singh
I first heard of the Emotional Process Workshop from a friend in a men’s group. He explained he’d found the weekend immensely helpful in helping him process emotions which were having a detrimental impact on his life. This sparked my interest and I decided to attend. I was immediately struck by the warmth of the Facilitators who created a welcoming informal environment and a safe container. As the Facilitators led the men through their personal work, they demonstrated skill and sensitivity: the skill to challenge a man if required and invite him to face what he may be afraid of or denying, and the sensitivity to hold the space for the man to release the emotion. I doubt this can be learned by studying a theory or by attending a course. This comes from years of experience working with men. I wholeheartedly believe that any man who attends the weekend will benefit from it. – Jay, London.
A very powerful weekend workshop. The level of experience, skill and qualification offered by Rod, Diarmaid and Ed as a facilitation team is difficult to beat. The container created was more than enough to allow each of the men to dive deep into those darkest corners of themselves that are the most difficult to reach. A strong empathy soon evolved within the group allowing each participant to explore their shadows with confidence. The degree of cohesion and mutual support generated by the way the workshop was led spoke for itself. I personally gained significant insight into one of my major shadows – the well of unexpressed grief that underpins my rage within. I am still absorbing the benefits of the workshop, something I expect to continue for some considerable time! – Isaac Roberts
Wow, this is a very hard thing to do. Words don’t come so easily and anyway there is so much that I don’t know how to condense it. What I saw and what I felt with each man’s process touched a deep part of me as if I was in the process with them. And somehow that is exactly how it was… The sensitivity and skill that you all provide as individual men (Rod, Ed and Diarmaid) is so much more enhanced and heightened as I witness you working together on the carpet, dancing with the conscious and unconscious selves of the participants. Your awareness of all, and your constant vigilance to protect and keep safe all involved, is to be applauded and honoured. My journey with you all was phenomenal!!! I reached a state of great inner peace and joy after having unleashed such pent up anger that I really had no idea was there, hidden in the depths of me, wanting to be released. Your skill and ability to speak and communicate to parts of my persona by simple but effective methods is mind-blowing. The whole weekend was amazing and could not have been made possible without the support and presence of all the other men there. For me these deeply freeing results are only able to be achieved with the support of others on their journey. I honour myself and the other men who have the courage to face the unknown, to take the first step on a journey of discovery, a journey not apparent at the time of stepping into my work, and to be witnessed by all. All men should give themselves the gift of this weekend. – Andrew Parry
Having not connected with this type of work for some years. I felt I had returned immediately to my lost and distant inner world with first scent of sage during the smudging ritual. The weekend workshop helped me enter the painful and hidden shadow that I have been carrying around that was bringing me much anger and grief, restricting me living my life more fully. With the incredible support of the facilitators and the processes offered, I managed to clear through these blocks and open my heart again to find a more loving and understanding way to be. – Barrie McCulloch
This weekend I watched in awe as 2 humble artisans created beautiful things in the medium of human potential. Rarely have I been in the company of 2 men who were able to comfortably and authentically own the entire spectrum of emotions, from fragile gentle grace to powerful “don’t fuck with me” warrior you would cross the street to avoid. Whatever was needed to guide the men they had it. I travelled to the workshop as a supporter, with doubts, low level anxiety and scepticism as my companions for the weekend. 48 hours later I’d made room for my new buddies – optimism, peace, excitement and love. You’ll journey together to dark places, stormy seas, brothers in arms never letting you go as you meet your inner demons. And the men. Diverse, kind, supportive, wonderful people, friends in waiting. The type you meet now and again in life if you’re lucky, and yet here’s a room full of them. How you’ll marvel at what they’ve faced and what they’ve carried, only to come to realise you’re carrying some of it too. Make no mistake, in terms of personal development, this is true “next level” stuff that has the potential to dwarf the gains you think you’ve been making. – Paul, London
Dear Rod, Diarmaid and Ed, I feel hope and gratitude for having been in that room with you, witnessing your commitment to be with us patiently and with resilience in every dark place we would go. I could feel your presence constantly and that enabled me to trust you and so to deepen up in my work. Profound humanity, compassion and great facilitation skills. These are the qualities I have treasured from you Rod, Ed and Diarmaid. Thank you all, from my heart. – Attilio Bergamaschi
I really feel a profound change in myself. It’s as if a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders and I feel back to who I used to be. I have been waiting for the feeling to dissipate, but it hasn’t and I don’t think it will! I truly feel at peace with myself and the issues around my daughter, and am honestly able to trust that things will work out when the time is right. And in the meantime the universe is presenting me with new opportunities that I was blind to, or unable to acknowledge before. And I feel able to start to deal with the underlying issues that got me to that place in my life. Thank you so much to the facilitators, the men of service, and all you men for your support and insight. Truly life changing. – Adam
I’d like to thank you for all your hard work and facilitation over the weekend. Bless you all, the weekend workshop has helped me take huge steps on my journey that seemed so impossible just a week ago with fantastic results. I don’t believe that I could have taken these steps without the leaders and the support of all of the guys at the weekend. I feel privileged and honoured to be among such great men (and you can quote me on that!) – P.G.
The weekend allowed me to open up fully and address buried emotions and blockages which had been lying stagnant for too long. The container of the group was built very quickly offering a safe, loving, supportive environment. I was very impressed with the great guidance, expertise and experience from the facilitators throughout the whole weekend. I managed to shift and release a massive dark force that I’ve been holding deep inside. It was amazing to physically and mentally do this process work on myself and also learn and resonate with the other men’s personal work. I came away from the weekend with a feeling of accomplishment, purpose, gratefulness and love. I also gained more insight and tools to carry on with my personal vision and mission which is to help and inspire young people find their true potential in their journey ahead. – W.S.
Many thank yous to you Rod, Ed, Diarmaid for running the workshop and holding that container, and for the care and compassion all you men showed which allowed me to go so deep and heal. – P.L.
Things have been good. Something shifted for me over the weekend and I feel different. Perhaps this is because I now know what I didn’t before – that deep down, in my core, I am loved and I am lovable. It seems my process has done something to move or lift or unlock the part of me that was perhaps blocking this deep knowing. – S.C.
I feel very honoured to have witnessed and been a part of your skillful facilitation and to have felt your evident love for helping men to heal themselves. I’m already enjoying living with a somewhat changed self even in these first few days as a result of grieving for something I never fully realised I had lost. Thank you for taking the time and providing a space for this – I feel passionately about the importance of this work and I have huge admiration for those who make it possible. D.J.
I had no idea what I was going to work on till my turn came around and then it appeared. During the process that followed I was able to let go thirty five years of pent up feelings around a significant event in my life which removed a huge burden that I had been unconsciously carrying. I only became aware later that I had also reclaimed positive beliefs of myself which unconsciously had been denying the validity of part of my life. I viewed what happened as a deep healing and what I want to do now is to dance around my new-found self and feel confident to leave the future to unfold itself joyously! I am thrilled with the workshop and praise myself for the trust that was necessary for me to go for it!! Chris Beazley
The work you did with us over the weekend is so powerful in itself, but with the addition of your immense presence, purpose, passion, drive and compassion it is something at a completely different level. Leandro D’Andrea
When the email from Rod first landed I knew this would be a powerful and necessary weekend for me, but much of my readiness was fed by each beautiful piece of work that went before me. When I did eventually step onto the carpet I was simply floored by the depth of grief I touched into for my 5 year old self, and then blessed by the gift of heightened awareness of my own sub-personalities. Beyond this, I can’t really put into words what I’m feeling and recognising, but I’m evolving, flowing. It feels healthy. I feel connected. I feel at peace, and yet open to all possibilities, going, staying, or somewhere in between. I’m definitely ready to start exploring my needs and putting me first, in a considered way. J.P.
Dear Rod, Ed and Diarmaid, thank you for a masterclass in skilful, respectful facilitation, an honour to witness. The service you individually and collectively do us, by being ready, able and willing to step into that place, is beyond any ready measure. A.H.
This weekend is profound and moving. It’s almost entirely self-discovery via deep work – half through your own work on yourself, half through participation in the work of other men. It’s dramatic because it’s so meticulously constructed by the facilitators, who take great care to identify the critical drivers in your work – nothing ephemeral, everything core. And it’s deep because the ability to meet, recognise and challenge unhelpful fragments of your archetypes is jaw-dropping. Honoured to have been a part of this circle of men. – T.C
The workshop was a deeply moving and transformative experience. I came with a lifetime’s grief locked deep inside me and uncertain how a single day’s work could possibly reach a place so unknown to me. Surrounded by a circle of loving men, the magic happened, and with few words a true transformation was set in motion. Rod’s gentle, loving, wise leadership was truly beautiful to behold. Thank you. Blessings to you Rod, and thank you for doing what you do. – Mario Peters.
Thank you both so much for leading our Process Work Day on Saturday. Your skill, compassion and support enabled me to access unheralded depths of sadness and to tell my dead parents things I wanted to say to them when they were alive. I was shocked by the size and power of feeling kept suppressed for 50 years, and it’s a testament to the strength and safety of the container that I could allow them to surface and be truly felt. My sincere thanks to you and to all the men present. I am lightened and uplifted by our time together and opened to the next phase of the journey. – David McGibney.
The day was very contained, the energy well built, and the work expertly facilitated. I saw a strong willingness to give men responsibility for their work, whilst dropping pebbles into the pond to ripple out and make waves if they were there to happen. I realise I didn’t feel led, I felt we just worked through something together, which was empowering and enjoyable. – Jonathan Martin.
A really great day. I felt very safe, supported and it let me connect with something very deep and powerful which surprised and delighted me. just opened up my heart, showed my vulnerability and I judge the play flowed beautifully. So, I am travelling to work, a very different world but have a strong sense of new connections and deep dark yummy power full of lightning and laughter. – Simon Chinnery.